Comments on: Pain is my alarm clock http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/ Web design news and insights since 1995 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 14:24:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Honeybee http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-48526 Honeybee Sat, 19 Sep 2009 19:11:32 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-48526 Man, I feel for you...I've been through a lot of crap this year too, and it's nice to see that there is a way and that it will get better...last summer, I was very gently told, "we're not going to recommend you for re-enlistment into the air force you love so much because your waist measurement causes you to fail the fitness test, we know you can run fast enough & do enough push ups & sit ups, but unfortunately, your tummy is just a little too big"...well maybe not in those words, but that was the reason nonetheless...after 15 years of dedicated service to my country I was let go...my husband said, it's okay, I'm still in and I'm never leaving you, we will be fine...continue with school...everything will work out...he left 2 months later for a remote assignment in Okinawa...slowly he became distant but always said he loved me...after 8 months, he came home for a visit...to tell me he didn't love me anymore & wanted a divorce...really? I later got suspicious & found that he had a girlfriend over there...so there's two bumps...had my well woman exam this summer & the doc says, so your tummy is full of fibroids, I think we should take out your uterus...what?? no children for me? I'm still so young...not fair! Then I got hired for a fantastic job taking care of cancer patients, but because they didn't market properly (we were a new start up) we didn't have patients & they laid us all off after 3 weeks...and now the divorce is upon me, I'll be having to move out of our home...3 more bumps...so let's see that's 5 bumps in less than a year...how much more do I have to put up with before something good happens for me? sorry to rant, but I too know where you are at and it sucks...just know this, it's become my mantra these days...Life is tough, but, we are tougher! Take care buddy, hope all is better... Honeybee Man, I feel for you…I’ve been through a lot of crap this year too, and it’s nice to see that there is a way and that it will get better…last summer, I was very gently told, “we’re not going to recommend you for re-enlistment into the air force you love so much because your waist measurement causes you to fail the fitness test, we know you can run fast enough & do enough push ups & sit ups, but unfortunately, your tummy is just a little too big”…well maybe not in those words, but that was the reason nonetheless…after 15 years of dedicated service to my country I was let go…my husband said, it’s okay, I’m still in and I’m never leaving you, we will be fine…continue with school…everything will work out…he left 2 months later for a remote assignment in Okinawa…slowly he became distant but always said he loved me…after 8 months, he came home for a visit…to tell me he didn’t love me anymore & wanted a divorce…really? I later got suspicious & found that he had a girlfriend over there…so there’s two bumps…had my well woman exam this summer & the doc says, so your tummy is full of fibroids, I think we should take out your uterus…what?? no children for me? I’m still so young…not fair! Then I got hired for a fantastic job taking care of cancer patients, but because they didn’t market properly (we were a new start up) we didn’t have patients & they laid us all off after 3 weeks…and now the divorce is upon me, I’ll be having to move out of our home…3 more bumps…so let’s see that’s 5 bumps in less than a year…how much more do I have to put up with before something good happens for me? sorry to rant, but I too know where you are at and it sucks…just know this, it’s become my mantra these days…Life is tough, but, we are tougher!
Take care buddy, hope all is better…
Honeybee

]]> By: Ara Pehlivanian http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-46765 Ara Pehlivanian Tue, 04 Aug 2009 15:27:51 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-46765 Wow. I just read this for the first time today (two weeks after you wrote it). Your command of the situation and resolve in the face of adversity is commendable and inspiring. I'm encouraged with your determination to protect your daughter. Here's to a bright and prosperous future! Wow. I just read this for the first time today (two weeks after you wrote it). Your command of the situation and resolve in the face of adversity is commendable and inspiring. I’m encouraged with your determination to protect your daughter. Here’s to a bright and prosperous future!

]]> By: Change | Rats Saw God: a story, of sorts http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-46756 Change | Rats Saw God: a story, of sorts Tue, 04 Aug 2009 12:51:40 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-46756 [...] a fantastic blog entry by Jeffrey Zeldman, who manages to be a web design pioneer at the same time as being a truly [...] [...] a fantastic blog entry by Jeffrey Zeldman, who manages to be a web design pioneer at the same time as being a truly [...]

]]> By: The Love You Make | jcksn http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-46755 The Love You Make | jcksn Tue, 04 Aug 2009 12:13:23 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-46755 [...] didn’t know how to comment on Jeffrey’s article. I still [...] [...] didn’t know how to comment on Jeffrey’s article. I still [...]

]]> By: Diane Vigil http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-46124 Diane Vigil Sun, 26 Jul 2009 22:30:42 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-46124 Sorry to hear of your trials, and glad to hear things are looking up. Another unmet friend out here on the Web. Sorry to hear of your trials, and glad to hear things are looking up.

Another unmet friend out here on the Web.

]]> By: Dan http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-45787 Dan Wed, 22 Jul 2009 14:05:35 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-45787 Really enjoyed the writing in this post. This reminds me how lacking I am as of late with my own self-care. Thank you. Really enjoyed the writing in this post. This reminds me how lacking I am as of late with my own self-care. Thank you.

]]> By: Ronald's Website - News Feeds http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-45438 Ronald's Website - News Feeds Sun, 19 Jul 2009 11:27:19 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-45438 <!--%kramer-ref-pre%-->[...] Pain is my alarm clock Today the pain woke me at 5:00 AM. One week ago today I had surgery. While most of me has bounced back, parts look like I disagreed with a mule. There is tenderness where a hernia repair botched by NYU interns 20 years ago finally got fixed. There's throbbing, tumescent, ... [...]<!--%kramer-ref-post%--> [...] Pain is my alarm clock Today the pain woke me at 5:00 AM. One week ago today I had surgery. While most of me has bounced back, parts look like I disagreed with a mule. There is tenderness where a hernia repair botched by NYU interns 20 years ago finally got fixed. There's throbbing, tumescent, … [...]

]]> By: Don Ulrich http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-45222 Don Ulrich Sat, 18 Jul 2009 14:19:36 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-45222 I was stunned that you and your wife split. Your daughter is lucky to have parents that care so much. In my experience the web will take care of itself man. Just take care of each other. <i>I have to respond to this, this person brought out the "East Side" in me. In case you don't know what that means Jeffrey just ask Noel J. We pretty much roll from the same hood ;-)</i> @m0d.ulus: What an awlful pant load of crapulence you are. As some of us try to make the bandwidth better I begin to wonder if people want that. It is not about the technology you have, it is about the thoughts you express. *sigh* I was stunned that you and your wife split. Your daughter is lucky to have parents that care so much. In my experience the web will take care of itself man. Just take care of each other.

I have to respond to this, this person brought out the “East Side” in me. In case you don’t know what that means Jeffrey just ask Noel J. We pretty much roll from the same hood ;-)

@m0d.ulus: What an awlful pant load of crapulence you are. As some of us try to make the bandwidth better I begin to wonder if people want that. It is not about the technology you have, it is about the thoughts you express. *sigh*

]]> By: Best I know … » Friday link post http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-44998 Best I know … » Friday link post Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:22:51 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-44998 [...] Zeldman gets interesting : http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/ [...] [...] Zeldman gets interesting : http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/ [...]

]]> By: Tyson http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-44980 Tyson Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:43:51 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-44980 I've been reading your words here for ...oh, about 10 years now i guess....and it still amazes me how you can break my heart to pieces and then put it together again and make me feel better, all in one small article. I'm sorry that your marriage didn't work out Jeffery....but i couldn't be happier for you that you're taking the time to take care of yourself, and that you've managed to create a healthy atmosphere with your ex in order to raise your daughter... all the best to you and the whole family. cheers Tyson I’ve been reading your words here for …oh, about 10 years now i guess….and it still amazes me how you can break my heart to pieces and then put it together again and make me feel better, all in one small article.
I’m sorry that your marriage didn’t work out Jeffery….but i couldn’t be happier for you that you’re taking the time to take care of yourself, and that you’ve managed to create a healthy atmosphere with your ex in order to raise your daughter…

all the best to you and the whole family.
cheers
Tyson

]]> By: Joan http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-44922 Joan Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:28:58 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-44922 I am always amazed at the way you manage to distill such huge experiences & passages of time into such elegant & brief snippets of prose. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us, so simply and profoundly. I have gotten into the habit of wishing people congratulations when something earth-shattering happens in their lives, in the firm belief that the space made in your life as a result of a loss is now available to hold something even more wonderful still, that you haven't even thought of yet. Congratulations, Sir! For enduring, surviving, and creating every day something better and more perfect than the day before. I am always amazed at the way you manage to distill such huge experiences & passages of time into such elegant & brief snippets of prose. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us, so simply and profoundly.

I have gotten into the habit of wishing people congratulations when something earth-shattering happens in their lives, in the firm belief that the space made in your life as a result of a loss is now available to hold something even more wonderful still, that you haven’t even thought of yet.

Congratulations, Sir! For enduring, surviving, and creating every day something better and more perfect than the day before.

]]> By: Pavel Kostychev http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-44913 Pavel Kostychev Thu, 16 Jul 2009 21:57:32 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-44913 You are an amazing writer! Even for me as a not english-native reader/speaker (Russian-born, currently live in Israel). Pleasure to read. I feel inspired. Really. You are an amazing writer! Even for me as a not english-native reader/speaker (Russian-born, currently live in Israel). Pleasure to read. I feel inspired. Really.

]]> By: Matt Lincoln Russell http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-44908 Matt Lincoln Russell Thu, 16 Jul 2009 19:44:25 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-44908 Very glad to be hearing more of your voice lately, Jeffrey. Very glad to be hearing more of your voice lately, Jeffrey.

]]> By: Aaron Kruglyak http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-44902 Aaron Kruglyak Thu, 16 Jul 2009 17:51:35 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-44902 powerful post powerful post

]]> By: Denny Dzulkarnaen http://www.zeldman.com/2009/07/14/pain-is-my-alarm-clock/#comment-44893 Denny Dzulkarnaen Thu, 16 Jul 2009 16:23:40 +0000 http://www.zeldman.com/?p=1710#comment-44893 Jeffery my dear, you have always been my inspiration. <blockquote> "Why do we fall down, Bruce? So that we can pick ourselves up." <em>- excerpt from Batman Begins</em> </blockquote> Be well. Jeffery my dear, you have always been my inspiration.

“Why do we fall down, Bruce? So that we can pick ourselves up.”
- excerpt from Batman Begins

Be well.

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